If you want to get better at handling social situations and want to be entertained at the same time, take a look at Charlie Houpert’s Charisma on Command YouTube channel, where he says his goal is to help you become “your most confident, charismatic self”. He does breakdowns of techniques used by influential people, from politicians Barack Obama and Donald Trump (while not a fan of Trump, he made a $1000 bet that Orange Julius Caesar would win the election based on his messaging), to fighters Muhammad Ali and Bruce Lee, to actors Robert Downey Jr., Jennifer Lawrence, and Will Smith, and even supernerds Neil deGrasse Tyson and Hank and John Green, the Vlogbrothers.
Charlie’s a big fan of the TV series Game of Thrones, and as a result, he’s used their characters as a studies in charisma and power dynamics in social situations. While you may be a bit leery of following the motivations of fictional TV characters written by screenwriters with dubious ideas, the examples that they provide and the lessons Charlie extracts from them make for good viewing and even better lessons. Here’s a roundup of the seven (so far) Charisma on Command videos based on Game of Thrones characters…
Key lesson: Influence is not about convincing people to want different things from what they already want. It’s about showing them that the way to get what they already want is by following you.
Key lesson: In situations where there’s a power dynamic, the person with the greater power is the one with the conviction that they have choices, and then…
Key lessons: Good intentions are never enough for a leader. You also have to:
Key lessons: A frame is the set of all the unstated beliefs and assumptions that give context to a situation or interaction. Control the frame, and you control the situation or interaction.
Key lessons: Don’t emulate Game of Thrones’ most Machiavellian still-living character, but do learn from his tricks and make sure no one pulls them on you:
Key lessons: Power doesn’t from telling people who have power, but by sub-communicating that fact. Lannister’s techniques are:
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